about
me

I'm a free-spirited hypnotherapist and coach on a mission to help other bright, creative free spirits live joyfully on a healthy and loving planet.

my story in a large nutshell

I’m Lucinda. I was born in London in 1970, the year James  Lovelock created the Gaia Hypothesis. I grew up in Wales and studied at the University of Oxford.

I’m sensitive, intense and neurodivergent. I have 818 books in my Audible library, probably a few dozen more by the time you read this.

For most of my life,  especially during the years I worked as a corporate lawyer, I kept secret my lifelong fascination with all things spiritual and metaphysical.

Now in my 50’s, I’ve realised that those who left me feeling ashamed of my deep connection to nature and spirit were the misguided ones.

With the aid of many wise and loving teachers in both human and in plant form I now stand proud for what I believe – that each of us can live joyfully in deep connection with one another and the beautiful planet of which we are a part.

I use the hypnotherapy and coaching skills I’ve been learning since 2007, combined with my lifetime of experience as a bright, sensitive, intense outlier, to help people connect with the innate power and wisdom that resides within us all. 

I would love to be part of your journey towards living joyfully in harmony with others and with nature so that you can fulfil your soul’s calling on this glorious Earth.

my life story

I came into the world deeply drawn to all things metaphysical and spiritual. As a  child I’d spend hours in the library learning all I could about lucid dreaming, divination, astrology and hypnosis, among other esoteric subjects. Altered states of consciousness, in particular, fascinated me from a very young age.

When I was 15 I read about meditation in a teen magazine and, much to my family’s amusement, would sit cross-legged facing my bedroom wall chanting nam-myoho-renge-kyo as I focused on manifesting being kissed by whichever boy I fancied at the time.

I seemed to feel everything more intensely than other people, and to think and care about things that didn’t cross their minds. At the time I just thought everyone else was better than me at dealing with their thoughts and feelings. It wasn’t until much later that I realised that I was having a very different experience of life from them.

The values I was brought up with led me to focus on academic success and, without ever properly tuning into my own heart’s desires, I found myself studying for a law degree at Oxford University.

My time at Oxford reinforced my fears that everyone else was better at adulting than I was.  Although I knew I was bright, I was sure that my idiosyncrasies detracted from my intelligence. I’d have been incredulous if you’d told eighteen-year-old me what I later discovered – that my unusual mind patterns are actually an intrinsic part of my creative, neurodiverse, highly intelligent brain.

Although I felt called to use my law degree to help people, an internship at a family law practice convinced me I was too sensitive to follow that path. I found myself instead in the commercial department of a huge London law firm. Not a healthy environment for a sensitive, tree-hugging 20-something girl with imposter syndrome, as it turned out.

I survived by spending my weekends in a new age bookshop, meditating on weekday mornings and numbing myself in wine bars by night. Although I was desperately unhappy, for several years I continued to listen to the people who told me I’d be daft to give up the lucrative legal career I’d worked so hard to achieve.

I tried all kinds of law and for a while had fun working as a music lawyer (for the Spice Girls and Queen among others) before I finally conceded that law wasn’t for me.

The arrival of my first child was a welcome excuse to escape the corporate world, and the beautiful home water birth of my second child – painless thanks to self-hypnosis – brought me back to my childhood passion for altered states of consciousness.

I trained in neuro-linguistic programming, coaching, and cognitive hypnotherapy and – in contrast with my experience in family law – discovered that as a therapist I was naturally able to hold space and help clients experiencing all sorts of challenging emotions, and to help them release all kinds of trauma.

After a short while working as a hypnotherapist, it became apparent that school was not a good match for my intense, sensitive children. After a lot of research, for the first time in my life I followed my inner guidance and took my kids out of school, working part time as we unschooled.  

My intention in home-educating my kids was to give them the freedom to learn what they loved to do. However, even outside the confines of conventional school, my youngest child still seemed to struggle with life in a way that sent me looking for answers about what was going on with him and how I could support him.

By the time he was nine years old, we’d seen multiple professionals and received a diagnosis of Sensory Processing Disorder with hints at other labels, but none seemed to offer a complete picture of what was going on.

Then one day I came across a pamphlet whose cover asked, “Is your child intense? Sensitive? Easily-overwhelmed? Do they react out of proportion?” I eagerly signed up for the workshop, where I learned about overexcitabilities (also known as intensities) and the work of twentieth century psychologist Kazimierz Dabrowski. Listening to the facilitator describe overexcitability was the most validating experience I’d ever had. I sat with tears in my eyes as I recognised not just my youngest son but also my other child, myself, and many family members. 

The model I discovered at that workshop changed my world so much that I couldn’t believe it wasn’t more widely discussed. I began writing a blog to share what I was learning, and to my surprise discovered, through the connections I made, that intensity and high intelligence very often go hand-in-hand.

The more I learned about my family’s neurodivergence, the more I realised that the suburban town we were living in was a terrible match for our sensitive, intense temperaments. In 2017 I followed my soul’s calling and moved to Brighton, a vibrant city nestled between beautiful hills and sparkling sea, and filled with kindred spirits.

Brighton’s been the perfect place to reconnect with what brought me to life as a child. Here I’ve found my tribe and the confidence to speak my truth – that we are all nature’s children, deeply connected to the Earth and capable of tuning into wisdom from deep within our unconscious minds, as well as the non-physical realms that surround us. I no longer feel shame about my spiritual calling but instead let it guide me and others towards living an ever more authentic way of life.

“I have had an emotionally transformative couple of months. I feel hope. Rewind 8 weeks and it was quite a different story. Lucinda has helped me to explore and engage with my inner self, allowing me to quell the anxiety and sense of hopelessness that was taking over. I cannot recommend highly enough.”

Chris S.

“Lucinda was kind, caring and professional. Highly recommend.”

Gareth Wells

 

My Credentials

I’ve been working since 2008 as a fully-qualified and insured cognitive hypnotherapist and coach.

I trained with Trevor Silvester at the Quest Institute and after obtaining my Diploma in Cognitive Hypnotherapy I subsequently completed the 10 month Diploma course twice more as an assistant. 

I’m a Master Practitioner in NLP (neuro-linguistic programming), which I’ve studied with both its creator Richard Bandler as well as at the Quest Institute. 

I spent a year studying Gifted Psychology with InterGifted founder Jennifer Harvey Sallin.

I’ve also trained with Paul McKenna (who once hypnotised me to perform as Madonna in front of 150 people), Michael NeillMaria Sirois, Brian Roet, and Rubin Battino, among others.

I’m always following my passion for learning and as I write this I’m studying transformational bodywork with the beautiful and wise friend Emma Penman.

Oh and I also have a BA in Jurisprudence from the University of Oxford, which is undoubtedly the least useful of my qualifications.